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Friday, 13 September 2013

PRE-MARITAL RELATIONS

Assalam oalaikum,

I have discussed the essence of marriage in Islam by citing various examples from the Holy Quran and ahadith in my previous post. Now onwards, I shall discuss the causes why so many marriages go wrong and offer their solutions in the light of Islam.
We have seen how Satan is dead against the institution of marriage as it is a Sunnah and he tries every trick in the book to split married couples.
We also know that our past often catches up with us and if we have committed any sin or mistakes in the past then all this can lead to negative consequences. Our past sins can affect our present and our past relationships can affect our present one.
As the saying goes, ‘Haste makes waste’, so people often tend to hurry into relationships just for the heck of it. We have often heard of unlawful relationships between a man and a woman such as temporary girlfriend- boyfriend relationships, the ‘no-strings attached’ friends with benefit relationships, one-night stands etc.

In one of my earlier blogs  . Satan lures people into unlawful relations.
I have shown how The people who get entrapped by Satan into mingling with the opposite sex, unlawfully, hardly realize what they are getting into. Temporary fun can turn into permanent pain. Some people are mature enough to realize that hasty pre-marital relationships can affect their marital bliss because one’s past can catch up with us at any moment. Such people consider it wiser to enjoy sexual relations in a timely way, i.e. after marriage, which is allowed by Allah (swt).
‘What has been done cannot be undone’.  So, if a person has already committed sins in the past and had been engaged in pre-marital sexual relations then there is no room for setting things right. After all, our life is not like a computer where we can delete the older files and retain only the new ones. History does not chang at any cost. However, the doors of repentance are never closed by Allah (swt).

Allah (swt) says in the Holy Quran:
‘Say: O My servants-who have wronged their own souls: Do not despair of Allah’s mercy: surely Allah forgives all sins. He is the All-Forgiving, the All-Merciful’ (TMQ-39:53).  

Allah’s Apostle (pbuh) said, ‘The one who repents from sin is like one who has never sinned’. (Ibn Majah)


So if a person repents wholeheartedly then Allah (swt), who is All-Merciful, will surely forgive him or her of all the past sins. This will help a person to unburden his soul and then make a fresh start in life.

Keep Me In Your Prayers,
Amel Soname
Amel_soname@yahoo.com

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