Friday, 13 September 2013
FINANCIAL CRISIS IN A MARRIAGE
Money is important in our lives and dearth of money can put a person in an awkward position. In order to lead a decent and self-sufficient each one of us requires money.
Lack of money in a family can create tensions, irrespective of the fact whether we live in a consanguine family or in a conjugal family. However, in this post we are concerned only with the conjugal family.
Financial crunch faced by a married couple can be generally classified into types:
Having to live from hand to mouth constantly.
Experiencing a sudden financial crisis
Whatever be the nature of the financial problem we will make an attempt to find a solution in the light of Islam. Many problems arise in our lives because we do not pay heed to what the Holy Quran says.
Allah (swt) says in the Holy Quran:
“Men are the protectors and maintainers of women, because Allah has made one of them to excel the other, and because they spend (to support them) from their means. Therefore, the righteous women are devoutly obedient (to Allah and to their husbands) and guard in the husband’s absence what Allah orders them to guard” (e.g. their chastity, their husband’s property etc) (TMQ-4:34)
Prophet Mohammad (pbuh) said, ‘Young men, those of you an support a wife should marry, for it keeps you from looking a women and preserves your chastity; but those who cannot should fast, for it is a means of cooling passion.” (Bukhari)
The above mentioned Quranic verse and hadith have emphasized the fact that in Islam, men are supposed to be the bread earners and protectors of women owing to certain qualities which Allah (swt) has endowed them with.
Prophet Mohammad (pbuh) said, “You are obliged to provide them with food and clothes honorably”.
( Transmitted by Abu Dawud (1905); Ibn Majah (3074)
The best of women are those that please you when you see them, obey you when commanded and who safeguard themselves and your money in your absence”. (Tabarani, Sahih)
So we find that the Holy Quran has laid down the rules which define the mutual rights and duties of the husband and wife. Understanding the Quran and following the Quranic rulings can definitely help in increasing the compatibility between a husband and a wife and make them co-operate with each other through thick and thin.
Allah (swt) loves those who are grateful towards Him.
Allah (swt) says in the Holy Quran: “And (remember) when your Lord proclaimed: If you give thanks I will give you more (of my blessings) but if you are thankless, verily! My Punishment is indeed severe.” (TMQ-14:7)
We need to learn a lesson from the above mentioned verse so that we do not allow the financial ups and downs in the marital life to destroy the fabric of marriage. If ungratefulness creeps into our mind then we will overlook all the blessings which Allah (swt) has showered upon us and we shall focus only on those things which we are deprived of. By doing this mistake we will be subject to punishment from our Lord and we shall also deprive ourselves of getting more Blessings from our Lord, according to the verse 14:7.
Keep Me In Your Prayers,