Allah (swt) says in the Holy Quran:
“To Allah belongs the Kingdom of the heavens and the earth. He creates whatever He wills: He gives daughters to whom he wills: and sons to whom He wills; or He gives both sons and daughters to whom He wills and makes barren whom he wills. Indeed He knows everything and has power over everything”. (TMQ: 49-50)
This verse proves the helplessness of mankind because whatever Allah (swt) has decreed will happen. Therefore, we have to be content with whatever Allah (swt) bestows upon us because none of us can have children according to our own wish. Not being able to conceive can be quite exasperating for the couples who long to have a child. After all children are one of the greatest Blessings which Allah (swt) has bestowed upon us.
However, we should realize that Allah (swt) puts us to test in different ways in this fleeting, worldly life.
Prophet Mohammad (pbuh) said, ‘Verily, if Allah loves a people, He makes them go through trials (ordeals, suffering, difficulties). Whoever is satisfied, for him is contentment (happiness) and whoever is angry, upon him is wrath (anger)’.
Prophet Mohammad (pbuh) said, ‘Surely I know a verse (from the Holy Quran) which if people would have followed it, would have sufficed for them concerning everything (in life). ‘Whoever fears Allah in whatever He does Allah will open for him a way out the difficulties and will provide for him from whence he could little imagine. And whoever trusts in Allah he is enough for Him. Allah brings His Decrees to fulfillment- Allah has appointed a destiny for everything”.(TMQ-65:2-3); Ibn Majah and Ahmad).
In another hadith Prophet Mohammad (pbuh) said, ‘Whatever trouble illness, anxiety, grief, pain or sorrow afflicts a Muslim, even if it is the pricking of a thorn-Allah removes in its places some of his sins’.
So instead of accusing each another regarding the matter of childlessness a married couple should remain patient and pray to Allah (swt).
Thawban (ra) reports that Prophet Mohamad (pbuh) said, ‘Verily a man is deprived of a provision (that was written for him) because of a sin that he commits; only prayers changes destiny; and only righteousness can increase the lifespan’. (Nasai, Ibn Mjah).
At this point I would like to mention some prayers to cure infertility:
If a person has undergone treatment yet there is no hope of cure then he or she should recite Ya Affu as many times as possible. Inshallah through the blessings of this beautiful name of Allah (swt) the person will be blessed with a child.
Recite Dua-e-Zakariya (AS): O my Lord! Leave me not single (childless), though You are the Best of the inheritors’. (TMQ-21:89)
Recite the prayer: O my Lord! Grant me from You a good offspring. You are indeed the All-Hearer of invocation) (TMQ-3:38)
Recite Surah Al-Fajr (Surah no.89) daily 11 times. Inshallah, Allah (swt) will protect them from the ignominy of being childless and Bless them with an offspring.
Apart from natural infertility or impotency there is also black magic induced childlessness. If a person is not aware about this then it would be tantamount to underestimating the damage that evil people can create through the tool of black magic. Infertility and impotency are only two amongst the innumerable diseases and problems which can be brought through black magic. Many female-related diseases such as menstrual irregularities, heavy bleeding, infertility and infections can be inflicted upon the victim of black magic. So merely having hormone levels which are not favorable for maintaining pregnancy or a woman’s being allergic to her husband’s sperms are not the only problems which can affect reproduction. There is a spiritual dimension to this problem as well.
In many families with a long history of black magic it has been found that if the news of a woman’s pregnancy gets leaked somehow then she experiences a miscarriage. However, if the news is kept a secret till the last moment then that woman gives birth to a healthy child. Making an erstwhile fertile woman infertile or an otherwise normal man impotent is quite an easy task for those who practice black magic. So instead of regarding the problems of frequent miscarriages, abnormal children, infertility, impotency and sexual problems as purely medical ones, we should also deal with them from the spiritual angle. After all only a holistic approach can help us get rid of these problems in totality.
Keep Me In Your Prayers,